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Ever have one of those days?
As a father of five and a leader of 150+, I have "one of those days" several times a week! I'm sure many of us do. The pressures of everyday life, especially as a leader, are tremendous.
Not enough of this....why did that happen?.....too much of that....where're my socks?....you lost your inhaler?!?!....I'm going to be late!.....aaggghhh! Sound familiar?
I like author Stephen Covey's take on the daily frustrations of life. He says there are two concentric circles that encompass our concerns. The outer circle contains everything we are concerned about. This is aptly named "the Circle of Concern." The inner circle contains those things we are concerned about that we can exert some influence on. This is called "the Circle of Influence." If we focus on those things that we can influence, our circle of influence will grow to encompass more of the circle of concern.
When I get frustrated, I try to focus on the inner circle, because when many things are frustrating, only so many of them can be directly influenced by me. In this way, I maintain a level of control and my energies aren't wasted worrying about things I have no control over.
So the next time you're concerned about how cold it is outside, shift focus to the inner circle and put on a coat!