...about anyone but themselves. They get so wrapped up in what they are doing that they forget to think about others.
This is especially disappointing when it is displayed by someone with responsibility for others. Someone who is "supposed" to be a leader.
Have you ever gotten stranded, forgotten, overlooked, neglected, etc, by someone who was responsible for you? Have you ever had to sit for hours because someone was too self-absorbed to remember to ask a simple question like: "What time do you get in? I know you need a ride and might not want to wait around for another 3 hours for the next one...so do you want to ride with me?"....especially when this same person will expect the one he left behind to be up at 0500hrs....with a mere 3.5 hours of sleep...
Here I sit in just that situation, in a foreign country, and I guess I could get angry and upset. What I really am is disappointed in that person who is supposed to be a leader....is supposed to take care of his team. Unfortunately, this is not unusual behavior for this fella and it really is unacceptable that a person with responsibility for others doesn't really step up and look out for his team.
I will remember how this feels and make a personal promise to not be so self-absorbed that I forget about any member of my team.
If you've ever been in my shoes, remember how it feels and make sure you try your best to not make others feel like that. Leaders learn not only by personal experience and mistakes, but also by the mistakes of others. Examples, good and bad, are always worthy of note.