Monday, May 14, 2012

Family Allegiance


One of the immediately recognized images for most adults of cowardice....The Cowardly Lion from the Wizard of Oz.  He eventually found courage when it came to defending his new found "Family."  But this is only because he did not want to remain a coward.

As the leader of a family, I am often amazed at the cowardice displayed by some people.  Unlike our friend the Lion, these cowards are those people who will not come to you with a problem, but instead, they will go behind your back and use "da rules" to protect themselves.  They actually enjoy causing mischief in underhanded and cowardly ways.  Families need to stand strong in the face of this kind of cowardice, especially with the multiple social media venues for this type of shameless behavior

In my experience, most normal problems with other people can only be adequately addressed by working it out with the other person directly.  If you haven't tried that first, then all other solutions seem like what they are....cowardice.  If you've tried and the other person wants nothing to do with solving the issue directly with you, then by all means, try getting someone to help you address the problem with that individual.  But don't go there until you have pulled up your big-boy panties and tried to make things right yourself....honestly and directly.

Cowards can really make a mess of things by repeating rumors and hearsay.  They often, intentionally or unintentionally, drag good people through bad stuff.  They use the latest "concern du jour" to their personal advantage and do not think of the consequences.  Often times, the consequences blow back in their faces...but not often enough.

If you find yourself the victim of a coward's stupidity, do yourself a favor.  Contact the individual personally and try to work it out.  If that fails, try to get the necessary assistance to work it out directly, without resorting to gossip.  Talk to your family about how to avoid these cowards and their mischief.  Your kids will thank you.

1 comment:

David Hengen said...

Great post. I can see some similarities in the workplace.